“Consistency, repetition, no decision- This is the way to develop the ease of a true habit.” -Gretchen Rubin
Ease. Habits should be easy. They should be automatic and shouldn’t require thought or decision. Like brushing your teeth. You don’t think about it; you just do it. When you get in the car you put on your seatbelt…again, no thought. Automatic. Habits are just part of you.
But developing a habit isn’t always easy. Usually, it’s not. It takes motivation to begin and momentum to stick. The beginning of habit formation is crucial. There is conflicting research on how long it takes to turn a behavior into a true habit. 21 days. 30. 66-67. A lifetime. I believe it’s completely circumstantial. Here’s the biggest tip I have.
I got it from The Healthy Habit Revolution.
Ownership. Whatever habit you’re wanting to develop, you have to OWN that behavior. Ya know how some people say “I just have to have my morning coffee” or “I’ll see you later after my workout.” And other people would say “I had coffee this morning” or “yeah, I should get a workout in”. The first person owns their behaviors. Drinking morning coffee and working out are part of who they are…simply an extension of their identity…another limb.
My arm. My leg. My coffee. My workout.
Whereas the second person does the same behaviors, but it’s not part of their identity…which is fine; but if they are wanting to develop these things as habits, they are less likely to stick.
So when you’re developing, you need to consider owning that behavior. Change your language around it. Welcome it into your life with open arms. “I just love eating vegetables at every meal” instead of “I have to get 5 serving of greens a day, according to my diet plan.” Another way to create ownership is to say things like “I am a biker” or whatever it is. I AM this, I AM that. I DO this, I DO that. Make the habit literally part of what you DO and who you ARE.
Even if it’s a lie at first, just say it. You’re not really lying because with consistency and repetition, in about 21 (or 30 or 66 or 67) days, it will become part of you anyway.
OWN IT, girl.